Hello, and welcome to my profile page! Thanks for stopping by to check me out! You've probably already picked up the quick facts – that I'm a man, that I'm 46, that my eyes are blue, that I'm single, and that I live in Brooklyn, New York. But that's not a whole lot to go on! So... Who am I? Why am I here on Adult FriendFinder? And what am I looking for? Let me start with why I'm here: [B]WHY AM I HERE? [/B] I'd like to meet interesting and beautiful women – for friendship, for hanging out and having fun, and for casual sex if our hormones say so. If the right woman shows up, I'd be interested in developing a long-term relationship. A key rea why I signed up for Adult Friendfinder is that I feel I'm done with my old relationship philosophy – which reads “serial monogamy.” I no longer want any ren of my own, so there is really no need for tying oneself down with vows of monogamy for 20-30 years to come. Monogamy is a beautiful idea, but the reality is that it's a fiction. Rather than cheating on one's partner, or ending the relationship because one is seeking something new and fresh, it's to better to build some flexibility into the relationship. That may be hard to do, but it's better than the alternative of running into a dead end. With the right per, I think it can be done in a way that's respectful, dignified and helpful to both. If you agree with me on this, make sure to contact me! I'd like to be in a close, loving relationship where we can explore sexual opportunities together. I strongly believe that love and sex belong together. Sex without love just isn't the same thing. It can be racy and exciting, fun and mechanically great in every way. But ultimately, casual sex is between two people who are using each other for their own benefit and pleasure. Love makes the whole experience qualitatively different. It is love that makes you want to give your everything to each other, and knowing and feeling this, you want to open your senses and take in all that magnificence your partner gives you. Ultimately, I want to find that wonderful, special woman I can fall in love with. But I'm also a practical man, and will happily settle for great casual sex until that special per shows up! [B]ABOUT ME[/B] [U]Physical features:[/U] I'm European (Swedish), but live in New York since 1998. I'm 5'9”, robustly built but trim/athletic at 170-175 pounds, and I have generally decent appearances... I dress well, I dance well, I smell good, and I do quite well in bed... My sex life has always been very good. [U]Perality features:[/U] It's really hard to be objective about one's own perality, so I decided to make it simple for myself and take eHarmony's perality test. The resulting report listed a number of adjectives that describe my perality traits in five different dimensions. So here we go... [U]Agreeableness:[/U] Understanding, Unquestioning, Humane, Selfless, Gentle, Kindhearted, Compassionate, Helpful, Supportive [U]Openness:[/U] Curious, Original, Inventive, Thinker, Brave, Eccentric, Avant-Garde, Unique, Imaginative, Creative [U]Emotional Stability:[/U] Adaptable, Engaged, Able to Cope, Passionate, Perceptive, Flexible, Receptive, Aware, Avid [U]Conscientiousness:[/U] Focused, Deliberate, Careful, Determined, Proactive, Obliged, Methodical, Purposeful [U]Extraversion:[/U] Moderate, Amiable, Laid-back, Temperate, Relaxed, Poised, Civil, Uncommitted, Pleasant [U]Self-image:[/U] I think of myself as bright, witty, and a lot of fun to hang out with. I have a sense of humor. I enjoy the good life: eating, drinking, traveling, going dancing, jazz concerts, beach bumming, you name it – all of it best done in the company of a lovely woman! I spend a lot of time with friends. I care about them, and about people in general. I'm a good guy, with good values. I'm very honest, and I expect the same from people I socialize with. [U]Self-confidence:[/U] I have a very robust intellectual self-confidence, thinking I have my head on my shoulders at all times. Some take me for low-key and somewhat reserved when they first meet me. Not being immediately assertive, some women haste to the conclusion that I lack in self-esteem. But don't let appearances deceive you! I'm a resourceful guy in many ways, and have been with extraordinarily bright and beautiful women my entire life. I'm very comfortable and secure in my male gender role. I just don't need to wear a lumberjack shirt to prove I'm a man. As a rule, we European men feel secure enough in our gender roles that we don't need to appear macho in order to prove ourselves. [U]Professional/social features:[/U] I came to the US to go to grad school, and eventually got a Ph.D. in economics. After school, I worked in academia for a couple of years, but then decided to jump to the private industry. I'm now working for a major professional services firm. I have a very good job, extremely free and flexible. I'm making decent money, not hand-over-fist, mind you, but I get by. I live in a nice neighborhood in Brooklyn. [U]Below the belt:[/U] While average in terms of height and weight, my endowment is quite large: 8” long, with a 6.5” circumference. Available stats reveal that about 1 in 100 men have a cock that long, and 1 in 100 have a cock that thick; and only about 1 in 200 have a cock that long and that thick. Surveys of women's preferences also reveal that my measurements are considered ideal by the majority of women. My unit is of the kind that can make women jump and shout, and that's what tends to happen once we get into bed. Since many guys lie about their cock size, I decided to include verified photos of mine, even though that's perhaps not the most tasteful thing to do. To access this photo album ("Below the Belt"), you will need to be in my network of friends. So that's the long and short of me... But what about you?

My Ideal Person ABOUT YOU

First of all, my ideal person should be a woman! Other than that, there is really no such thing as my "ideal woman." Women come in so many shapes and forms, and with so many different kinds of personalities. I've enjoyed the company of many, as friends and lovers, and am hoping to get to know many more – including you!

Looks are important, that cannot be denied, but they can be deceiving. To me, personality and character are as every little bit as important as looks. Beauty on the outside, and on the inside too! Beauty is a natural thing, and it should come naturally. Women wearing light makeup, or no makeup at all, are more appealing to me than heavily made-up women.

Personality is extremely important. Women who have the courage to simply be themselves - and to be true to themselves - are far more attractive than women who feel like they need to abide by conventions and conform to other people's ideas about who they should be. I'm looking for women who are great company, nice, witty, good conversationalists, and with a sense of humor. That's the kind of women with whom one wants to spend time - and develop a fine friendship. I fall in love with women who are romantic, sensual, loving and caring – and concerned with my happiness.

Sincerity, honesty and openness are very important to me. I can't take false, deceitful and opaque people, whether men or women. Passive-aggressive behavior also turns me off. Some women seem to think their role is to dish out subtle provocations to see how much you're willing to take before getting ticked off. That's decidedly not my type of woman, so please do not attempt! Opaque people will send you on a fishing trip to find out who they are, but the catch often turns out to be meager. That's a waste of time. Life is too short for nonsense.

But I'm sure you're not one of the meanies! If any of the above appeals to you, don't hesitate to get in touch. I'm waiting for you, with lots of warmth, caring, friendship, and perhaps even that four-letter word... We'll speak for a bit, then get together, see if we hit it off. No pressure either way. I don't believe in that. People should do what they feel is right, and that goes for women and men alike.

Again thanks for stopping by! Hoping to hear from you soon!

- HBBQ -

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Too many to list. I have a large music collection and keep
exploring and acquiring more

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Nope.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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